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Teaching Kids to Stay Safe When They are Alone

It is impossible to keep an eye on your kids 24/7 and for that reason it is crucial to teach them a few basic personal safety rules when neither of parents is nearby, if possible without making them fearful or anxious.

The statistics show that most cases of crime involving children is committed by their relatives, family friends, neighbours, teachers and other people they know rather than by strangers. Nevertheless, you are highly recommended to teach your kids never to talk to strangers, not to allow to be touched by strangers or take anything from people they do not know except in emergency situations. They should also be taught not to open the door or answer the phone when they are home alone and not to give their personal information such as name and surname, age and address to people they do not know. However, rather than teaching your kids that all strangers are dangerous, it may be a good idea to teach them that most people including strangers are good and that they should be careful with strangers because the “bad” ones pretend to be good. Just as important is to make sure that your kids are aware that no one not even people who are close to their family should be touching them on their intimate area or ask them to touch them on their intimate area.

In addition to teaching your kids to avoid any kind of contacts with strangers and tell you immediately if anyone they know is making them uncomfortable or uneasy, they should also be taught how they can actually protect themselves when they feel threatened such as by saying no using clear words and body language, making noise or/and running away from potentially dangerous situations, refusing to accept “bribes” such as a candy in return for doing something they do not want to, etc.

Lastly, kids should also be taught how to stay safe when using the Internet. Kids should not be allowed to use the computer by themselves at an early age or as long as you are not absolutely sure that they understand the dangers online. When surfing the web together with your child, you are highly recommended to teach him or her that everything they see and read on the world wide web is not necessarily true and that people online are not always who they say they are. If your kid shows interest in online social communities or other websites requiring any personal information or communication with other people, go through the website together and explain to your child why a particular website is safe and why it is not. Also, teach your child never to reveal his or her personal information such as name and surname, address, phone number or even e-mail to anyone who is not on their “safe list” of contacts the two of you created together and much less to meet with anyone without your consent. It is a good idea to check the computer occasionally to see what your kid is doing online but make sure that he or she will not feel like being spied on.